Navigating the Conversation: How to Discuss a Prenup or Cohabitation Agreement with Your Partner

Let’s be honest – starting the conversation about a relationship agreement with your partner can feel uncomfortable. However, it’s an important conversation that can lay the foundation for a secure future together.  A relationship agreement is like insurance for your partnership – you hope you’ll never need it, but you’ll be glad it’s there if you do. 

Here are some tips on how to broach this topic respectfully and effectively.

• Timing is Key: Choose a time when you and your partner are both relaxed and free from distractions. Avoid bringing up the topic during heated arguments or stressful situations.
• Approach with Sensitivity: Begin the conversation by expressing your love and commitment to your partner. Emphasize that discussing a relationship agreement is not a reflection of distrust or a lack of faith in the relationship, but rather a proactive step to protect both parties’ interests, and to allow your relationship to end with love if life takes you in different directions in the future.
• Focus on Financial Planning: Frame the discussion around financial planning and security for the future. Highlight the benefits of a relationship agreement in terms of clarifying financial expectations, protecting assets, and ensuring a fair and collaborative resolution in the event of separation or divorce.
• Be Honest and Transparent: Share your reasons for considering a relationship agreement openly and honestly. Encourage your partner to do the same. Transparency is essential for building trust and understanding between both parties.
• Listen Actively: Be prepared to listen to your partner’s concerns, questions, and perspective. The best relationship agreements take both party’s feelings and input into consideration throughout the process.
• Give Each Other Time: Remember that discussing a relationship agreement is a process, not a one-time conversation. Give yourselves time to digest the information, reflect on your feelings, and revisit the topic as needed.
• Get Jointly: Review Jointly’s course materials together so you understand your rights and the different options.  Then, fill out the questionnaire to build a relationship agreement that works for both of you.

Talking to your partner about getting a relationship agreement requires patience, empathy, and open communication. By approaching the conversation with sensitivity and a focus on mutual understanding, you can navigate this potentially delicate subject together and strengthen the foundation of your relationship for the future.

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